Lindsay and Lewis hold a rustic New Jersey vineyard wedding.
Date: October 24, 2015
Location: Unionville Vineyards, NJ
Photographer: The Pros
Caterer: Feastivities Events
Officiant: Captain C.W. Davis – Nautical Star Weddings
Lindsay and Lewis met through mutual friends in Belmar, NJ. Working as a soccer coach, Lewis is from the U.K., while Lindsay is a registered dietitian from New Jersey. When Lewis proposed to Lindsay while visiting a vineyard in Little Egg Harbor, NJ, the couple decided that they had to hold their wedding at a vineyard.
Florist: DIY – bulk flowers purchased from Costco
Videographer: The Pros
DJ/ Band: DJ – The Pros, Band – The Pat Roddy Band
Linens: Provided by Feastivities Events
Photobooth: The Pros
We tried to do a lot of DIY projects for the wedding, the biggest ones probably being the flowers (the ceremony flowers, girl’s bouquets and centerpieces), USA vs. UK corn hole boards, table runners, decorations including LOVE letters and our hashtag letters #becomingthebentons, our friend Caity Liptak made us a few signs for the ceremony and the bar.
Cake: Bredenbeck’s Bakery
Colors: Merlot, tan, white, gold
Flowers/ Centerpieces: Wildflowers placed in mason jars, wine bottles displaying menu/table number, gold candles
Linens/ Chaircovers: White tablecloths with burlap table runners, light tan napkins, wooden chairs (no chaircovers)
Wedding Planner: Lindsay planned this wedding herself
Wedding Party: 2 Maids of honor, 8 Bridesmaids, 1 Best Man, 8 Groomsmen
Vows: Self-written by Lewis and Lindsay
My favorite part was having all of our family and friends from America AND England together; it was a once-in-a-lifetime experience for us!
Lindsay’s Wedding Dress: Cynthia, by Maggie Sottero in Ivory
Shoes: Zac Posen
Rings: Blue Nile
Bridesmaid Dresses: White House Black Market, in Merlot
Groomsmen suits: Next (UK) in blue
What was your old, new, borrowed, blue? Old – my grandma’s handkerchief, New – my wedding dress, Borrowed – my mom’s ring, Blue – garter that was Chelsea Football Club themed
First Dance Song: Tenerife Sea, by Ed Sheeran
Honeymoon details and location: We haven’t had an “official” honeymoon; my husband is from England so we spent the week after the wedding spending time with his friends and family that were over from England for the wedding. But we did take a trip and stayed in Paris so we counted that as our “first honeymoon”.
Most Memorable moment: I think it was between our starter and our main course, Zac Brown Band’s “Chicken Fried” came on and a whole group got up to dance. It was totally unplanned but so much fun! A lot of guests were confused as to why we would get up in the middle of the meal but when a good song comes on you have to dance!
Try to really enjoy the planning process and don’t let any little details get to you. It can be a trying, stressful process but you’re doing it because you’re engaged and you want to spend the rest of your life together.
What was the biggest roadblock that you ran into while planning the wedding? Our venue had an odd policy about the amount and type of liquor we were allowed to bring in so we had to sort through that pretty close to the wedding which was stressful.
Who/what gave you the most help in the planning process? I had a lot of help and support from my husband, bridal party and family. I also felt the amount of time I had was perfect (about one year) so I spread out each aspect of planning throughout this time and didn’t really feel overwhelmed.
How much influence did your family/fiancé have in the planning process? My (then) fiancé let me have most of the control over the planning process, but whenever I asked for help from him or my family they were more than happy to help.
Which part of the process gave you the most stress? Things that we didn’t have control over – our venue’s policies, the weather, etc.
What did you do that you found helped out with stress the best? Just having enough time to plan really helped! Each week I would pick a new “project” and a new aspect of the planning process to focus on; one week I would focus on finding a baker, the next week I would focus on centerpieces, etc.
Is there anything that didn’t go as planned? Nothing major; we couldn’t find the bustle on my dress though so I ended up holding the train of my dress up for a portion of the night. Also, we had a big sparkler exit planned which didn’t end up too impressively… some of our guests had to take the first shuttle back to the hotel and the guests that were still there were still inside with the band.
If you could go back in time, what would you have changed? Although this wasn’t really an option for us, I would have had more of a structured rehearsal dinner… we made ours very casual since many of our guests were traveling from overseas, didn’t have cars and were staying in hotels around NJ, but it would have helped to have a run-through with our large bridal party.
What did you do to save money? We tried to DIY as much as we could; doing our own flowers probably saved us the most money. DIY projects were also a fun way to spend time with my fiancé and bridal party.
What was your biggest splurge? Probably our caterer – Feastivities Events… so glad we did though! The food was delicious and the whole day ran so smoothly because of them. All of their staff worked so well together and made me feel so at ease throughout the day.
Thanks for sharing with us Lindsay! What is your favorite detail of Lindsay’s wedding? Let us know in the comments below.